Jessie's update
Well, I sit at home on this warm Saturday afternoon doing nothing but listening to music, looking over at my rattie and guinea pig friends, but I'm still here living with aHUS and I feel good that I have overcome many obstacles, so much that I have met a guy on a dating site who understands similarly what it's like to live with a life threatening illness. He, himself was diagnosed with neuroma, which is a serious cancer, but from what I understand is that he is keeping it under control and is in remission. He and I have been talking on the phone for about I'd say about almost a month now, and he seems attracted to me and I'm attracted to him, he's older than me, which is good for me as I am told by both my mom and Aunt Linda, because I'm wiser beyond my years and have been through so much in my lifetime.
The downside to possibly starting a relationship with this guy is that he lives in Tarrytown NY and I live in Buffalo NY. Tarrytown NY is near NYC which is an hour away by plane from my house, but it could work, if it goes that far. I feel happy when I talk to him and I haven't felt this happy with anyone especially a man in a very long time, as I have been treated like dirt by men my own age, as they want one thing and one thing only from me. Once they start dating me for about a week and find out what my life is like, they don't want anything to do with me, or they just want to get laid, which is not how I work, I'm not that kind of girl. I'm a girl who wants to get to know someone before pursuing that kind of relationship; get to know someone to see what they are like, if they have a job if they are able to handle having a relationship with me.
Yes, it is often very hard for me to meet someone who is willing to be with me, because of my dialysis schedule and someone to be able to accept that I have to be on a machine to survive. But, this one is different, as he and I enjoy the theater, which is perfect, because I have performed on stage and he himself participates in theater on stage and off. He's not just an actor, he does puppeteering, sound, lighting, and many other things.
He drives a car, which I like, because all the others didn't drive, so that made me the driver for them and he has a job which is another plus, he's able to support himself and has his own place. He's 34, which is older than me, but I've always been attracted to older men, as I have so much wisdom from what I have had to endure.
This man also wants to try to get tested to donate a kidney to me, although I don't know how that will go if he has medical issues himself, but he wants to get tested, so I gave him the information needed, if it's going to cause harm to him, I won't have him donate.
But, I hope that he and I can some day meet in person, and who knows....time will tell.
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Comment by Jessica Olivia Frysz on August 3, 2010 at 11:46pm
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Thank you Grace, but it seems every time I find someone, they find something wrong with me and don't want to be with me, because of that one thing, the fact that I have to be on dialysis. I am just now starting online dating, it seems to be going well, but no winners yet.
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Comment by Grace on August 3, 2010 at 6:57pm
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Jessie, it sounds like you've found a kindred spirit--that's great! Relationships take time and energy, but they can be so rewarding. I hope you are invigorated by all the good things that you have going for you now.
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